We Have Become The Change We Needed

September is almost over. This entire year has been a blur. As if some giant had upended the world and shook it a few times. Nothing will ever be the same. So what do you do when the life you created falls apart?

Personally, I have learned some hard life lessons. I have gone from seeing my eye surgeon every other month to once in eight months. I am a bit anxious about this. But it seems to be fine. I really don’t like having to face time with my therapist. It’s just not the same. And she’s dealing with the same mess, so what to do?

Through a lot of trial and error, we have narrowed down what is important to us and what is not. Our health is important, especially since OU Boy just got his fifth stent and all the others were full. It brought us into the hospital and made us never want to go back. So yes, this man is doing what we call Flexible Plant Based Eating. Flexible as in he can have small amounts of red meat just not every week. We are getting creative with our Insta-Vortex Air Fryer. Vegetables are great cooked crispy. And we can make jerky.

The pool is closed for the season so our 2 hour water workouts are gone. We have substituted hikes, walks and pilates. So far he has lost 10 pounds. And the sweet tea is a once in a long while thing. He reads labels and was shocked by some of his favorite foods.

We went to the big box store and stocked up on everything. We can live in the house for months now! We also decided to make the big move and buy a new television. The last time we bought one was in 2007. We just never watched television until streaming came around. So yesterday I jumped on an early sale and got the FireTV. It is amazing. I also bought a recliner for the hubs. Said I never would but here it is!

So, basically we created a new life. We may not have control over a lot of things but we are both back to working full-time and we’ve re-done our bathroom, and the kitchen to make them work better for our needs. Maybe this time has been a blessing, forcing us to get our priorities in order.

How have you adapted to this new world we live in? Tell me you learned how to make sourdough bread!!! Then show me.

xx P

The Christmas Table by Donna VanLiere

The Christmas Table (Christmas Hope, #10)

Christmas Hope #10

It’s 1972 and John is determined to finish a table for his wife Joan. He has zero experience in building tables but he swears he can finish it before Thanksgiving.

While he is doing that Joan is re-discovering her mother’s recipes. Creating the most delicious things to go on that table. But then cancer strikes and everything is up in the air.

In 2012, Lauren Mabrey discovers she is having a baby. Everyone at Glory’s Place is helping out. The house needs to be furnished and a trip to a local builder nets them a handmade table with a hidden drawer full of recipes and notes about them and what was going on at the time.

Lauren begins to try out the recipes and in no time has become a cook!

Told in two different times by two different women, this one had me crying! I had no idea this ending was coming and it was so beautiful!

Very Well Done!

NetGalley/ October 6th, 2020 by St. Martin’s Press

Spilling The Tea On Oklahoma

Good Morning! Having a nice cuppa with my new cup a friend sent.

I am still in a mood about this Covid thing and all the lies being told. Here is a new one. Remember all that ‘family’ we went on vacation with last year? The Trump people? Well the 7 year old caught Covid at school and now the mom and baby twins are all sick as well. So here is how Oklahoma counts. The 7 year old has Covid. Positive test. The rest weren’t even tested because they are ‘presumed positive’ and these numbers don’t go in the count.

Hell is going to be quite packed in the coming years. But since these same people thought it was a hoax, I’m not feeling any sympathy for them at all.

I have very little patience left for stupid people. We have an election around the corner and if you vote for this administration, well, here’s your sign. STUPID. I’d like a president who has actually served some time in government, the military, school. Seriously, who hires people with no experience?

Enough for today, I need more tea!

Be Safe, and Be Smart.


the book of two ways by Jodi Picoult

The Book of Two Ways

Dawn Edelstein is on a plane when her life changes. With an announcement to prepare for a crash landing.

A lot of things flash through her mind. Her husband is not one.

She survives the crash but is left wondering about her life. What would have happened if she took a different path? Gone left instead of right?

And that what the book is about. Choices and how they affect us.

I was not invested in this one at all. It could just be me. See what you think!

NetGalley/ Ballentine September 22nd, 2020 by Ballantine Books





The Coast-to-Coast Murders

Who is on the mark?

What does that mean? Remember it. Always know who is on the mark.

Michael Fitzgerald is a long-distance truck driver and he is about to have a really bad day. At least I’m pretty sure he wasn’t planning on finding a dead woman in his bathtub. But then there are things he doesn’t remember and unfortunately things he can’t forget.

Michael and his sister Megan were adopted by the Fitzgeralds Two shrinks in one house who should never have had any children. Ever. Megan is the only person Michael can trust. At this point he doesn’t even trust himself! He’s lost time before but he never understood why.

Meanwhile…Detective Hobbs and FBI Agent Gimble have joined up to work a murder that seems straightforward. They have a suspect in custody and that seemed easy. Until the next murder happens. When they figure out they have multiple murders that crisscross the map, the Fitzgeralds’ name comes up. But which one? The father is dead. Megan is trying to help Michael and while they suspect Michael, he is elusive and very organized.

When two of my favorite authors team up on a book, I am going to read it! This was a long book and every minute was pushing harder and harder to the end. The characters were so well done and the suspense was intense all the way to the end.

You won’t believe this ending! I’m still going WHAT???? This is Psychological Suspense at it’s best!

NetGalley/ September 21st, 2020 by Little, Brown & Company




A Heartfelt Christmas Promise by Nancy Naigle

A Heartfelt Christmas Promise: A Novel

Vanessa Larkin is one driven woman. She knows she deserves the next plum assignment in Paris. And it’s almost Christmas. But this year she is being sent to North Carolina. To a small town that was bought out a long time ago with a promise nothing would change.

But this company is making fruitcakes. Who in the world wants fruitcake? This should be a slam dunk and have her back home in a hurry.

She quickly learns that Porters is a cornerstone for this town. Originally owned by Mike Marshall’s family. It has been the mainstay of this town for years. Even after his Grandfather sold it for whatever reasons he had.

Vanessa quickly falls in love with the town, the fruitcake and the hunky guy.

Will she find a way to make everyone happy including herself? Or will she go back to her life and her own goals?

It’s Christmas so anything can happen and love is always in the air.

I think this was just the story I needed in these trying times. Remembering what is really important.

NetGalley/ September 29th, 2020 by St. Martin’s Griffin

WAR, How Conflict Shaped Us by Margaret MacMillan

War: How Conflict Shaped Us

Margaret MacMillan, a renowned historian looks at war. Why choose war? What does it say about us?

From the beginning, there has been war and peace. Sometimes at the same time. Everything we know and have comes from war. It brings out the worst in us and challenges our beliefs and what we hold dear.

This is a look at war from all sides. Is it in our very nature to be at war? How do we decide to go to war?

We all know that war shapes politics, values and can be destructive so why do we humans keep planning, strategizing, and declaring war? And why is it mainly men?

Some very good history here along with a lot to think about.

NetGalley/ October 06, 2020 by Random House


A Highlander is Coming to Town (Highland, Georgia #3)

A Highland,Georgia Novel #3

This romantic comedy series is set in Highland,Georgia. Claire Smythe has found herself here after leaving her touring band. She is looking to blend in and not stand out one bit. She has secrets and she does not want them spilling out.

Without money she takes a job as a live-in companion and care taker for an elderly woman. Neither one talks much, but a bond has been formed.

Holt Pierson has been left to care for the family farm while his parents hit the road for Florida for Christmas. He is one hard working and driven man! And Claire, or whatever her name is, has captured his mind and heart.

But will this Christmas be Merry and Bright? Let’s just say a lot of secrets come tumbling from Santa’s bag this year and love may just overcome a lot of them.

Always a treat to read this series. A lovely story of family expectations, our own dreams and desires, and finding a way to live with both.

NetGalley/ September 29th 2020 by St. Martin’s Press

Don’t Look For Me by Wendy Walker

Don't Look for Me

People walk away from their lives every day. Especially when the pain at home is unbearable. But is that what happened to Molly Clarke?

When her car is found abandoned on the side of a road, out of gas, during a storm, the police and her family search everywhere for her. False leads and suspicious people make the search difficult.

A note is found at the only hotel telling her family not to look for her. But her daughter is not buying it. She is determined to find her mother. Believing there is no way she would abandon them.

Everyone in this little town is sketchy. I didn’t believe any of them. The suspense in this thriller built layer by layer until I was reading at warp speed!

This was a heartbreaking story of loss, guilt, insanity and what women will do to survive.

The question is what did happen to Molly Clarke? And will her daughter live to find out?

One very well done book!

NetGalley/ September 15th, 2020 by St. Martin’s Press

Oklahoma is lying to the country and the people! 5 Days in OU Med.

Before I get into our journey through the hospital, let me tell you how yummy this steep tea is! And it tastes even better in my Georgia Dawgs cup!

It’s actually good for blood pressure, which brings us to our story today.

For months now OU Boy has been throwing up every morning like clockwork. No baby, no nothing. And every time he sat down he fell asleep immediately. Sunday night was a bad night. His arm was hurting, he couldn’t catch a breath and we knew from a lot of past experience that he was having a heart attack.

So his Cardiologist said go straight to the Emergency Department. And here begins the lies we have been told.

A housekeeper came to the car to get him in a wheelchair. No badge. No PPE. We then were put in the heart section of the ED. Not one time did I see anyone wearing a PPE gown. Masks, yes, all the nurses and doctors.

We heard over the loudspeaker constantly calling Code Blue to whatever room and that was soon followed by Terminal Cleaning needed in whatever room.  We literally had to wait for someone to die to get into ICU. You can’t leave once you are there, so I had a lot of time to worry and watch and listen to the nurses and residents.

The news came on and the reporter said Oklahoma had 538 active cases. The nurse snorted and said, “Like we don’t have that many here alone.” I asked if everyone that came through was tested first. “NO. We are going broke and can’t afford to test everyone. We were tested right away and had results in an hour maybe.

Our nurses had only worked here for two weeks and were unfamiliar with our codes and setup. But they were amazing. For instance, there are NO urinals in the entire ED. Our nurse stole one she found in the OR. There are empty glove boxes in the rooms. There are no chairs, so I slept on the floor. The only PPE gown I saw was stashed under some towels in the cupboard still sealed.

Every single room, including the broom closet, is full of sick people. As I waited outside of OR, it was shift change. That is when I hear all of the nurses talking about going elsewhere. Talking about how their interviews went at other facilities. We never saw housekeeping except for the lady with no name tag that brought us in. Also, no pillows. Or blankets.

I waited for 6 hours for someone to call me or come out and let me know if he was even alive, because there were times in the night that he was not for a few seconds. No one came. Just me and the little man mopping. Because only one person per patient is allowed in and everyone had left for the day. Finally I saw a nurse and asked her to help me. She did and I will be forever grateful.  He had 4 100 percent blockages which they cleaned out the stents and even put in an extra. 

We came home late Thursday. It was the worst cluster f*** you have ever seen. But now I know I’ve been lied to. And I’m pissed about that. Shame on you Governor Shitt and shame on you little man trump. If you get nothing out of this but the fact that we had to wait for someone to DIE to get a bed while my husband was flat lining in the ED. This isn’t a hoax, hospitals are overflowing with sick people and no equipment. 

Thankfully OU Boy feels like he can run a marathon. He can not of course as they went in through his groin. But at least he is alive and we know we don’t have the plague. So that was our week. How was yours?

Stay Safe

xx P